What is success? There are many definitions.
One that I hear often is “to be able to do what you want”. That is true, but I would complete the definition by adding and underlining: “and knowing what you really want”.
In fact, we are often pushed to put our energy into achieving what we are “supposed” to want, and we may not give enough attention to taking the time to truly understand what energizes us.
I say “supposed” to want because there are many external factors that condition us and determine our beliefs around what is good and what is not, what is a good goal and what is not, and so on. This holds true for many facets of our lives, including our relationships. We are programmed from an early age that we should want a man who looks a certain way, and has a certain set of criteria, but have we ever really evaluated if that actually fulfills our core needs?
The self-awareness about who we really are and what we really want is the premise to achieving any real, long lasting success in our life. Without this, we are likely to move along two ways: One is the walk around life aimless, without a goal. The other is to pursue an aim that, on a deep level, we do not feel like is really ours.
In both these situations we find difficulties in expressing and manifesting our full potential. Even if we keep on repeating to ourselves that we have a certain goal, if we are not deeply convinced of it, it will be difficult for us to really put in all the necessary energy and commitment.
Our inner conflicts and unclear intentions interfere with our actions.
This is why it is SO important to be clear on your relationship vision. Only though this self-understanding can you begin to communicate this with your partner.
Things turn around dramatically when we know what we really want. Not only will we feel and use another level of energy, but also we will experience a feeling of peace and trust.
We are then ready to manifest what drives our soul and can create the destiny we deserve. This will lead to a dramatic improvement in all the key areas of our life.
All we need is already within us now, but we need to really find it, we need to dig deep and excavate, listen to it, and translate it into our realities.
When we dedicate time to deepening our self knowledge, we spend our time well. You will be happier and your relationship has the insight it needs to flourish.
Lots of Love,